While it certainly is true that people see life differently after having had cancer, people also see life differently after someone in their family having cancer, a traumatic accident, etc.
And even if someone did have cancer, he or she may not have the same experience from it as another person.
they also dont want to say that their girlfriend is bald and only has 2-7 years to live.
who wants to make a life with someone who wont be around to help them finish what they started? please let me know how youve dealt with this situation. cat i was for 5 years with my "soul mate"unti i found out he was dating another woman behind my back, until on 10/3/11 i found the reason of his changes.
i often think of what a wonderfully fullfilled life 2 survivors could live.
Also, being a survivor i realize more than ever that i don't want to live my life alone. Hello, I definitely encourage you to discuss dating on this board with others.
I have dated non-survivors too,,, they just don't click,,, I think the view of life isn't the same,,, and I am faulty for not telling him in advance about what I have experienced,,, but don't know how to tell a potential partner about everything,,, without scaring the person away,,, and don't know when the best timing is,,, it's such a long story,,, and I just don't know how to tell others,,, :/ and about somethings, they just don't have the same insight to,,, : S and what could seem sooo much less of a problem after going through what we go through can be such a big deal to others,,, including my ex,,, and I just found it really disappointing when they just don't get stuff,,, or are just sooo over-wrapped about something that isn't that devastating,,, but gets so "depressed over it" and in words, some people can seem so capable of understanding,,, but if they have never been in the situation themselves or had a close relative go through something like cancer,,, they just don't know how to react,,, and I find it difficult to stand in the same ground because the perspective is so different,,, well, sometimes,,, I haven't had the luck to date anyone who is a survivor,,, :/ I wish I could though,,, but I don't know why,,, I meet really great people,,, but they are all the same sex lol XD not that that is bad, but it's just difficult to date someone who doesn't quite get it,,, maybe I'll get lucky and meet someone soon :) and I don't know,,, how do you resolve something like that,,, is the only solution to date a survivor?
or are there people out there that can be compassionate and understanding of what goes on?
A part of survivorship includes pursuing your goals for life. Please feel free to discuss this topic, it is very much encouraged.
I think one should be open to dating both cancer survivors and non cancer survivors.
That being said, I do recognize that another cancer survivor may be easier to relate to, but worry that only looking for a relationship among cancer survivors would reduce one's chances of finding someone by too much.
I suppose in my mind, I'd much rather be seen as merely a person amongst everyone else than be singled out.
Also, I really don't think I'd want to date another cancer survivor, either.