You survived the first date, enjoyed the second date and had a blast on the third date. It means recognizing that you’ve had three great dates and staying realistic about what that means. When you’re walking around in a love daze, it’s hard to look past someone’s sexy abs and admit that you may not like the way that person doesn’t always say “please” and “thank you.” Take a cold shower, look past the sexiness of it all and ask yourself: • How does this person make me feel? Remember, when someone tells you who they are, believe them.
He calls her that night, they chat, he jokes, she laughs, and he asks her out on a date. The next week they meet again and they have a better time. Suddenly she doesn’t reply to his texts, she doesn’t pick up his phone calls, and she’s nowhere to be found. Didn’t he do everything a good man should in pursuit of a woman? And, according to a very insightful dating blog out there, just calling her should be more than enough. It’s not just sex but the sexual, the imagination, the anticipation, the tension and the suspense.Here’s what to do: Instead of throwing yourself, full throttle, into dates four through 76, try tapping the brakes. That person won’t someday realize that they were dying to have kids. Staying present means not getting all caught up in imagining your wedding or wondering if your kids will have the same cute giggle as the person you’re dating does. If one of your non-negotiables is to be with someone who wants to have children and the person you’re dating stated that they never wants kids, the third date is a good time to disappear.It goes up and down, it’s simple and then it’s complex, it pushes and pulls.Sexual is a double helix between the mind and the body, because they’re so inter-connected. You can open doors, pull chairs, get the checks, cook dinners, and call her as often as modernly possible.In my experiences, when a woman doesn’t feel sexual after three dates with a man, both her body and mind shut off. But understand that as a dating single man you can be completely romantic AND completely asexual. Once you start addressing sexual, then you can start undressing.